Basically, if you want to manage anger, the only way of doing so is to listen to your self-talk. This doesn’t mean listening to yourself talk. It means listening to your SELF-TALK. It’s quite true that anger is created from within. No matter how much you say the anger comes from you, not it or she. Our thoughts about “it” or “she” is actually where the anger comes from. And by changing our thinking we can change the way we feel.
Doesn’t it make sense, then, if anger is created from within that we have the power from within to keep from getting angry? The answer is a definitely yes. By adjusting how you think about a situation, to listen your self-talk, is how you keep yourself from getting mad – period. How? By listening for demands, what are demands? They’re easy to spot. They tend to express themselves in words such as should, ought, must, have-to, need. Depending upon the context and situation, when these words or thoughts are used they will create anger. Whether you use them on someone or someone is using them on you, a sense of anger, rage or mad evolves from these words/thoughts of demand when things don’t go your way.
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